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This expression stems from their concern with the impression they are going to leave on the onlooker.  It is “cheese” that makes them so ugly.  Forgetting themselves plus forgetting the present photographer plus forgetting the future onlooker would make them beautiful.  Forgetting themselves and overlooking themselves…. The humanness of man is most tangible when he forgets himself and overlooks himself!”

So, when we want others to get real, what is the basis for our request?  I’m not sure if anyone can answer such a request with a completely “honest” answer.  Rather, we may decide to challenge our sense of reality by asking questions that might include: Am I sharing my inner talents at work and at home? What do I value from deep within myself; and am I expressing those talents with those around me? Or am I just marching through time because….  What is the ‘because’? Why do we do what we do and what is our motivation?  Who are we smiling for - the onlooker, the photographer… who are we modeling for?  If we were to simply “play” as a child, where we would express our inner self, what would we be doing – how telling that could be.  Think about that one for a moment.

Deep questions for a deep topic….  So the next time we ask someone to get real, what reality are we asking them to align with.   Ask yourself, “What am I aligned with?” Is it to help someone to fulfill a jointly shared vision, goal or objective or just trying to get a point across? We’d love to hear from you on this topic.

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